Shit I Find Interesting.

What it says on the tin.

Women, in general, have very little patience for men's emotions that don't suit their needs. Our emotions aren't really concerned over, except insofar as they affect women. Literally nobody cares if we're sad, depressed, feeling hopeless, defeated, anxious, confused, uncertain, unsure of ourselves, and so forth unless it affects them, in which case it's usually a problem for them. Nobody wants to hear it. Typically it just upsets them because we are less valuable as emotional outlets for their own feelings, less firm rocks in a turbulent sea, or whatever other purposes our emotions may be recruited for. Men's emotions are not for us, as they are constantly being hijacked for someone else's needs. Sometimes these are broad social goals, but mostly these are the needs of a domestic partner. To ensure men remain useful emotional receptacles, we are punished our entire lives for demonstrating emotion beyond a narrow band of acceptability, typically situational: e.g., we're supposed to be courageous when that is what is required of us, angry when that is what is required of us, loving when that is what is required, and so forth. Anything else is routinely, often brutally shamed.

https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/cb0v65/cmv_in_heterosexual_relationships_the_problem/etcv3xa/

#psychology

I agree but this will never happen. Americans fetishize the ultra rich. We all fancy ourselves as billionaires in the making.

Why, with enough hard work and a little luck any of us could be the next Jeff Bezos, right?

It's a chronic consensual delusion baked into the DNA of American culture. And it's fucking insane.

Imagine what you can buy with a million dollars in one day. Buy a nice house, a few nice cars, almost anything you want. For most people, a million dollars would be life-changing.

Charles Schwab, can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 25 years.

He’s just number 50 on the top billionaires list. Going to the even wealthier:

Mark Zuckerberg can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 195 years.

Warren Buffet can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 230 years.

The Koch brothers can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 242 years.

Bill Gates can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 247 years.

Jeff Bezos can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 306 years.

The Walton heirs can blow a MILLION dollars EVERY DAY for 370 years.

Trump gave the rich over a trillion dollars in tax cuts. If you took that money and went back to 700 BC, before Ancient Rome, and spent a million dollars every single day, you’d finally run out of money now, 2019.

These are very conservative estimates because it assumes that whatever is bought will have zero resale value.

All while we lead the industrialized nations for children in poverty (only Turkey, Greece, Israel, and Bolivia are worse), families are terrified of going to the doctor for fear of financial ruin, we have a massive homeless problem, young people are burdened with huge student loans, families are strained and broken because both parents have to work full time. How many murders, divorces, suicides, and poor upbringings have been caused by financial strain?

It’s TIME to adjust the rules.

https://www.reddit.com/r/LateStageCapitalism/comments/ca5xhc/remember_capitalism_is_working_perfectly/et6i4g9/

#economics

As the years pass by, I realize that I am mortal.

I now know that there is not enough time to explore every branch of study to its furthest reaches.

There is not enough time to read every good book or to slog through the bad ones.

There is not enough time for ongoing toxic relationships or for broken healthy relationships.

There is not enough time to be a good husband and father someday; I must do my best today, every day.

There is not enough time to live every life I once thought I might.

There is not enough time to regret the choices I've made or to be angry about the hand I've been dealt: I must make the best of who I am and where I am.

For as the years pass by, I realize that I am mortal.

Steven Mills http://www.stevencmills.ca/

#mindfulness

When mistakes occur, blame the process, not people.

Root Cause Analysis is the means to fix the cause, rather than treat the symptom.

  • What allowed the mistake to happen?
  • What will prevent mistakes from occurring in the future?
  • Assume people continue to make mistakes, so build fault‒tolerance into your improvements.

https://herdingcats.typepad.com/my_weblog/2019/06/a-compendium-of-root-cause-analysis-resources.html

#business

The United Way is biased but the overall sentiment rings true. American society is absolutely predatory aka “Fuck you I got mine”.

And if you think that is a good thing you are part of the problem.

Poverty in America, in other words, has become endemic and ubiquitous because its systemic and structural. It’s baked into the system. It’s a feature, not a bug. And most Americans these days, I’d wager, understand this intuitively. Work hard, play by the rules, become something, someone worthy. Be a teacher, engineer, writer, coach, therapist, nurse etcetera. What do you get? You get your pension “raided” (read: stolen) by hedge funds, you get your income decimated by “investment bankers”, you get charged a fortune for the very things you yourself are involved in producing but never earn a fair share of, you get preyed on in every which way the predatory can dream up.

https://eand.co/half-of-americans-are-effectively-poor-now-what-the-c944c518db6a

#economics

I totally relate to withdrawing from the world and would do it if I had the ability to. For me, it's less that I've been rejected or bullied and more that living in American society gives me an uncomfortable feeling of cognitive dissonance. It's kind of a terminal situation as I've tried to make the best of things but the only thing that really helped was when I was living in a hippie commune (which wasn't sustainable long term because I have responsibilities like aging parents). I just don't like our culture and I don't like our lifestyle. I'm not suited to it. But more than that, I think the way we live is morally wrong in too many ways to enumerate here, in too many ways to cope with some of the time. Living the life I need to live to get by is painful to me. I'm fundamentally uncomfortable with the basics of what we've built as a civilization. I hate cars or cities that are built around cars (the sounds they make are really abrasive to me- it's just one of those things that's like nails on a chalkboard and you can't explain why), I hate having to give my time and labor to make someone else rich, I hate working just to spend my money on nonsense, I hate the anti-intellectualism of American culture, I hate the hyper capitalistic antisocial nature of our economy, I find American politics deeply offensive and can't tolerate discussing or hearing about the events of the day, I hate that nobody notices that to live you have to go into debt and that the powers that be want you to go into debt so that you're a slave to them, I hate commuting, I hate that most recreational activities in the US are centered on consumer culture, I hate that your life is an endless hamster wheel of being funneled from one sterile air-conditioned isolated box to the next, I hate the idea of the nuclear family, I hate the rat race, I hate the suburbs and the unethical quantity of space/resources Americans feel entitled to, I hate the life of quiet desperation that most of us are living. Just generally, I don't jive with 99% of the norms in our culture. I just don't like what this particular life has to offer, and if I had the option I would opt out of society completely and spend most of my hours in blissful silence/solitude whilst petting my cat and tending my garden. I think most of us feel this way on some level, it's just that some of us are better at shoving down the feeling and going through the motions, either because we're afraid or because we numb ourselves to it.

https://np.reddit.com/r/psychology/comments/brmnbu/new_insights_into_hikikomori_people_who_withdraw/eofyqbb/

#economics

It seems to be about surrendering, a bit, as I relax my constant need for control. I don't have all the information I need to perfectly plan out my life —– there's so much uncertainty about everything, that I can't possibly know how things should go, what I should do exactly, what will come next. So should I try to plan for every possible outcome, be incredibly prepared for any possible scenario, when I can't know what might happen? Or can I relax and surrender, trusting that I can deal with whatever does come up. So far, that's always been true.

https://zenhabits.net/turbulence/

#mindfulness

Tru dat.

Software startups are about stumbling into a market, not doing software technology well.

https://youtu.be/pW-SOdj4Kkk?t=1853

#technology #business #startups

The reality is our brain is vast and full of a myriad of random thoughts and impulses, some dark, but our executive function is the switchboard that chooses what we think and what we disregard. That is the reflection of who we are.

We have this fallacy wherein we think the deepest thoughts are the most real; that people who have private thoughts but do not act on them are hiding' their true self; but nothing is less true. It is who we choose to be and what we choose not to be and not to give weight to that is the best reflection of our self.

https://np.reddit.com/r/science/comments/bqagww/mindfulness_which_revolves_around_focusing_on_the/eo2t7qh/

#mindfulness #psychology

Words of wisdom.

My dad taught me a lesson when I was young. Never work at 100% of your ability, always work at 75%. If you have a bad day and only can work 50% that's not as far of a drop as if you were working at a 100% rate. If you work at 100% they will expect it every day give yourself a cushion for the bad days. Started a new job a couple of months ago and this rings true every day.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/bpy625/does_anyone_feel_there_isnt_enough_work_to_do_at/eo0zm4b/

#worklifebalance